I realize that Mother’s Day is fraught with emotions for a lot of people: Joy, sadness, grief, love, loss. But the overwhelming intention of the day is to celebrate the role of women and their work to care for others, whether they’re genetic offspring or not.
We asked our friends how they plan to spend Mother’s Day (whether they are mothers, or they celebrate the women in their lives). Turns out, the most important thing for most of us is to enjoy quality time with people we love.
Here’s what people said was their ideal (or fantasy) version of the day:
- Not having to cook! Sleeping in an hour!
- The best Mother’s Days are the ones you spend with the people who made you a mother, doing anything or nothing at all.
- I’d like to enjoy out and about in beautiful weather, spending time with my daughter and husband. I’m not picky about where, just that we are together and doing something fun.
- Since this is the last Mother’s Day before I become a mama, I want to spend it reveling in what a momentous, dream-come-true year this will be!
- Fantasy version: Fly to a remote beach, eat and sleep, hang out and relax with family.
- Lay on the couch and watch movies all day while eating carrot cake. By myself for at least a couple of hours, and then snuggling on the couch with my girls for the rest of the day.
- Spa day: Massage, facial, pedicure, the works!
- A family cookout with all my kids home for the occasion!
Our friends apparently have incredibly low-key fantasies, for the most part. But because real life is complicated, here’s how they’re actually celebrating:
- We’re moving into our new house, and the movers will be there in the morning. Then I’ll be unpacking the rest of the day.
- I’ll be solo this Mother’s Day because my husband is traveling for work. So I’ll probably just chill at home and relax.
- My mom can’t be with us this year, but my aunt will be visiting so my husband and I will spend the day with her.
- Going to a concert hubby and best daughters in the world, then cook out with family.
- Driving to the suburbs to visit my mom (which I’m happy to do!).
- Trying to get a brunch reservation for my mom. Nursing a baby and battling a two year old.
- I’ll be working a 10-hour shift.
However you celebrate, Happy Mother’s Day!
PS – Julia Ward Howe, an abolitionist and activist, gets a lot of credit for suggesting a “Mother’s Day for Peace,” which was an anti-war effort during the Civil War. She also wrote the “Battle Hymn of the Republic.” Anna Jarvis is the woman who proposed the idea to Congress in the early 20th century.
PPS – I decided to honor the day with a couple donations: One to Sweet Cheeks Diaper Bank (which provides diapers for families in the Cincinnati area) and another to The Compassion Collective (which raises money for young refugees and homeless youth). If you’re feeling like the commercial side of the holiday is wearing you down, it’s amazing how good it feels to put a little money toward a charity you like.
PPPS – I’d really prefer NOT to use an apostrophe for this holiday name (i.e. Mothers Day), because it’s about ALL mothers, not just one. But I’m following standard convention here.