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What to read (during maternity leave)

August 8, 2016 by Suzanne Leave a Comment

Suzanne asked a few friends for recommendations to occupy her mind while she’s home with a newborn. Today, blogger (and mom of two) Hillary Copsey shares her recommendations for what to read. 

Reading is, in many ways, the perfect thing to do when you have a new baby to tend.

It’s quiet. It transports you from the tedium of diaper changes and the pleasant yet prickly trap of a nursing or sleeping baby. It can be done in fits and spurts, in any place and at any time – even in the dark of night, thanks to phones and tablets.

And reading aloud endlessly will quiet the screaming of a colicky child – at least for a bit. (May you never discover this for yourself.)

When Suzanne asked me to compile a maternity leave reading list, I dove into the search for recommendations with two big assumptions, based on hazy memories of my own reading habits after my sons were born. I read less when my boys, now 6 and 8, were wee, and the reading I did was short and light.

Both assumptions are false.

I’ve kept track of every book read, by month, for nine years, and because my boys’ birthdates are just two weeks apart, my maternity leaves fell in the same three-month period. Even as a first-time mom with a colicky newborn, my book count during that three-month period remained at the nine-year average. When my second son was born, I read two books above it.

I’m an omnivorous reader, and my maternity leave reading history reflects that, too. Just as in the years when I wasn’t rocking a newborn in the wee hours, my book lists from early 2008 and 2010 are a mix of genre and literary fiction, nonfiction, short stories, young adult, long-form journalism and favorite rereads.

All of this geekery to point out this essential fact: If reading is a vital part of your identity, a baby won’t change that. You will find time for it – and, if you have one, you should ask your partner to help you make the time. Reading was the thing I did to remain who I always was even as I became something new, a mother.

I have a list of recommendations, but here’s my best advice: Read what you enjoy.

Avoid parenting books. Skip the books you “should” read. Instead, turn to comfort reads, whatever that means to you. Take this time to wallow in what you love – baby and books.

Favorites from My Maternity Leaves

The Book of Lost Things, John Connolly – great particularly for boy moms

The Dexter books, Jeff Lindsay – quick, dark humor

The Amazing Adventures of Kavalier and Clay, Michael Chabon

The Underland Chronicles, Suzanne Collins – The Hunger Games author

The Good Soldiers, David Finkel – longform journalism

White Teeth and On Beauty, Zadie Smith – So, here’s the peril of maternity leave reading: These two very good books blur together, read as they were in fits and starts while my youngest son was tiny.

Short Stories 

I always say I don’t love short stories, but my book lists shows that to be false. These collections are great, delivering smart, often funny or poignant social commentary in manageable page counts.

Tenth of December, George Saunders

Some Possible Solutions, Helen Phillips – particularly “The Doppelgangers,” but on a good day when you can laugh at yourself

The Paper Menagerie, Ken Liu

Drown, Junot Diaz

Where The God of Love Hangs Out, Amy Bloom

Vampires in The Lemon Grove, Karen Russell

Fiction 

This is a collection of books I still think about after reading in big, greedy gulps.

Lucky Us, Amy Bloom

The Royal We, Heather Cocks & Jessica Morgan

This Is Where I Leave You, Jonathan Tropper

Flight Behavior, Barbara Kingsolver

Ready Player One, Ernest Cline

Mr. Penumbra’s 24-Hour Bookstore, Robin Sloan

Alif the Unseen, G. Willow Wilson

Where’d You Go Bernadette, Maria Semple

The Flavia de Luce mysteries, Alan Bradley

The Night Circus, Erin Morgenstern

Mudbound, Hillary Jordan

Horns, Joe Hill

How to Tell Toledo from The Night Sky, Lydia Netzer

Monsters of Templeton, Lauren Groff

Summerland, Michael Chabon

The Likeness, Tana French

Finnikin of the Rock, Melina Marchetta

Speak, Louisa Hall

Old Favorites

These are the books I return to again and again. Even if you’re not usually a re-reader, you might find it comforting when your hormones are raging and you’re covered in bodily fluids.

Jane Eyre, Charlotte Bronte

Pride and Prejudice, Jane Austen

Anne series, L.M. Montgomery – Go for the later books. I’m telling you, Anne Shirley Blythe is a feminist role model.

Grimm’s Fairytales – I particularly like this version, Fairy Tales from The Brothers Grimm, by Philip Pullman

Song of the Lioness series, Tamora Pierce

Pillars of the Earth, Ken Follett

Nonfiction

This list was compiled with the same criteria as the fiction list.

The Boys in The Boat, Daniel James Brown

Data-ism, Steve Lohr – Read this with Speak from the fiction list.

The 50-Year Silence, Miranda Richmond Mouillot

Being Mortal, Atul Gawande

Men We Reaped, Jesmyn Ward

Between The World and Me, Ta-Nehisi Coates

Online

We all have our corners of the internet that suck us in for hours, so I’ve kept this brief.

“The Midnight Zone,” Lauren Groff – my favorite line: “I taught them how to read, but they could make their own lunches.”

NextDraft – This daily newsletter from Dave Pell will keep you up-to-date with everything happening outside your house.

Tom and Lorenzo – Follow the celebrity fashion machine with witty commentary and lots of pictures of pretty dresses and pretty people.

Twitter is great for night-time feedings: Someone is always up, and you can pick and choose what you read further. Authors like G. Willow Wilson and Rainbow Rowell are great on Twitter. Following all your favorite news sources is never a bad idea. I also recommend @XplodingUnicorn for funny observations about parenthood.

Medium – The daily digest is a fairly decent round-up of interesting reads and/or the reads people are talking about.

After 10 years in Florida, Ohio native Hillary Copsey returned to the Buckeye State, where she works for a nonprofit arts agency, blogs at Not Raising Brats, and reads copiously. Find her on Twitter @HillaryCopsey. She and Suzanne would both like to #MakeAmericaReadAgain. 

Photos from the Library of Congress (1, 2, 3)

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Our favorite smart email newsletters

June 10, 2016 by Suzanne Leave a Comment

Smart emails

As an avid reader (and connoisseur of the best the internet has to offer), I manage my reading in a variety of ways, from Feedly (for daily blog reads) to Pocket (for saving interesting longform reads for downtime and weekends) to email newsletters.

I’m a big fan of email newsletters: They come directly to me, they feel more personal than blog posts (because it’s addressed TO ME), and they dive more deeply than social media posts (because there’s no character limit or “read more” in an email).  I even started my own monthly version, because I think the medium is so compelling.

Today, I’m sharing my favorites. They’re the ones that have made it to my primary inbox after weeks and months of reading, because they’re compelling, unique, and offer perspectives I can’t find anywhere else.

NextDraft

Why I love it: A daily (weekdays only) email with links to some of the day’s biggest stories, with a heavy emphasis on politics, technology, and culture. I particularly like the “bottom of the news” section, which features quirky stories. (Sidenote: I tried The Skimm, a similar daily round-up of news stories, but I never adjusted to the tone of it. Some people LOVE IT, so I’m mentioning it in case you want to try a couple of these.)

Ann Friedman Weekly

Why I love it: Every Friday, freelance writer Ann Friedman shares links to her own work, as well as a CRAZY amount of other links. These stories cover pop culture, feminism, world events, and essays. (She also does a hand-drawn pie chart if you are a paying subscriber. I am!) I have no idea how she reads all these stories in any given week, and many of her readers spend their weekends working through her recommendations.

Lenny Letter

Why I love it: Interviews with smart women, personal essays from celebrities and everyday women, and occasional writing from actress/writer/director Lena Dunham. Comes twice a week, but I never feel like it’s too often.

Austin Kleon’s Weekly Email

Why I love it: A round-up of 10 interesting, artsy links from artist-writer Austin Kleon. Good for doses of visual art, creativity, writing, and occasionally music and pop culture.

Shout-outs to real-life people I know and like:

The Sleeper Hit

Why I love it: Writer Meryl Williams gives brief biweekly updates about her life (learning roller derby and exploring her current city of Portland, Oregon), while linking to her latest freelance and sharing her favorite reads.

Humdrum

Why I love it: Short essays from Christina Brandon. Compared to the other newsletters above, Brandon’s stands alone for its unique collection of themed observations and personal stories.

I Heart Words

Why I write it: Once a month, I pen a short advice piece (in response to anonymous questions) and share links to stories, podcasts, and recipes I’ve been thinking about. I’m interested in words, writing, compelling people-stories, living my best life, easy recipes, and bizarre animated gifs, so the newsletter is a round-up of those things. Essentially, it’s the stuff I want to share and discuss with my friends, but I don’t want to bombard them with single-link emails all month.

Is there anything else I should subscribe to? Are you on the email newsletter bandwagon? 

Filed Under: Miscellany Tagged With: email, Internet finds, newsletters, reading, what to read

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